We live in a world driven by aspirations, public opinion, and striving to be the best. Why do we do this? The short and blunt answer might be: image management. At what cost? The short and blunt answer might be: our families.
I have been one who has always strived to excel. I worked hard as a child to live up to my potential. I secured a scholarship to college, attended the best graduate programs in my field, ran for public office, sat on advisory boards, developed a successful business that spanned half the state, and traveled the country as an expert training large groups full of professionals. For what?†To make a difference?To become something to someone else? To earn more money?
If I were to ask you what the most important things are in your life, your responses might be like mine: my wife, my children, my family. However, do they honestly receive the best of my focus, my energy, and my passion? Does your family get your best?
I love my family. I came to a place in my life where I was willing to refocus on my family and remove the focus on myself. The result? I have never been happier. I have never felt closer to my wife and sons. We don’t make as much money or have as much notoriety as we might have. But, I know that they would rather have me than money. They would rather have me than feeling good that others know who I am. They would rather have me than see me become something to someone else. They would rather I make a difference in their lives. Our families deserve the very best we can give them. If they really are the most important thing, let’s prove it.