Stronger Relationships with My Family

Family First

We live in a world driven by aspirations, public opinion, and striving to be the best. Why do we do this? The short and blunt answer might be: image management. At what cost? The short and blunt answer might be: our families. I have been one who has always strived to excel. I worked hard …

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Marriage counselor with a flip phone

I trying an experiment that I began a few months ago until the end of the year. I gave up my smartphone. In recent years more and more research has found correlations between smartphone use and marriage problems, depression, anxiety, insomnia, and emotional distance. I see it in my clients. I have counseled couples for …

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Default or Intentional

A copy machine is designed with a default setting: push the button and it automatically makes one black and white copy. If you want something different, you must intentionally select the settings that you want: more copies, double-sided, enlarged, color. etc. This may work well with copy machines, but not so well with marriages and …

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Reach for Each Other

At this moment I sit next to my four-year-old son as he sleeps in his hospital bed. He is an incredible boy. A boy of strength, love, and character. He has endured eleven surgeries in the short 4 years of his life. Sitting with him through these painful, fear-invoking, and difficult trials in his life …

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Managing Life’s Roadblocks

There are times in our life plans when we feel like we have hit a brick wall. These types of barriers can be any obstacle, real or perceived, that prevents us from achieving a desired objective. This can occur in our personal life or in any type of relationship whether with a spouse, a family …

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Helping Children on an Emotional Rollercoaster

When a child is experiencing intense emotions it can be frustrating and can take a lot of time to get them off. Here are some tips to help you get through these difficult moments  Stay off the emotion rollercoaster yourself. If you allow yourself to get on you will only make the ride last longer. …

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Cost vs. Benefits Relationships in a Consumer World

Have you ever heard parents of teenagers say things like, “What am I getting out of being a parent to this kid?” and “When do I start getting something in return?” It sounds like these parents love their children but are stressed by the job of parenting. This kind of cost-benefit language used from well-intentioned …

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Communication Skills: How to Speak, Listen and Respond to your Loved Ones

The goal of effective communication is mutual understanding. Often, we forget that communicating is an art. They are so many little pieces that play an important role in the way we communicate to others such as our verbal expression (written, oral, and visual) and nonverbal communication such as our body language. I would like to …

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Helpful Principles to Follow When Talking to Your Children About Drugs, Sex and Alcohol

Examine your own attitudes and beliefs. When it comes to talking to children about difficult subjects like sex, drugs, and alcohol, the first thing you need to do is examine your own beliefs and attitudes. Remain calm when these topics come up with your children. Encourage other parents to talk to their children about these …

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The Blended Family Challenge

Blended families are created after divorced parents marry new spouses. Many times both parents bring to the marriage kids from previous relationships, as well as any children they may have together. In my experience working with families that are facing this challenge of raising they own kids and their new spouse’s children all together, I …

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