Stronger Relationships with Myself

Mistaken Identity

Are you dealing with a mistaken identity? Are you aware that your mistaken identity is negatively impacting your marriage or couple relationship? This is happening when you mistake poor behavior or a negative attitude as being part of your identity or personality? Every day I directly tell couples to stop being critical, defensive, making assumptions, …

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Marriage counselor with a flip phone

I trying an experiment that I began a few months ago until the end of the year. I gave up my smartphone. In recent years more and more research has found correlations between smartphone use and marriage problems, depression, anxiety, insomnia, and emotional distance. I see it in my clients. I have counseled couples for …

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Managing Life’s Roadblocks

There are times in our life plans when we feel like we have hit a brick wall. These types of barriers can be any obstacle, real or perceived, that prevents us from achieving a desired objective. This can occur in our personal life or in any type of relationship whether with a spouse, a family …

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Say YES to Saying NO! : A Guide to Overcoming People Pleasing

Self Test: YES NO Will you do whatever is asked of you to keep everyone around you happy? YES NO Is it everyone else more important than yourself? YES NO Is it saying ďnoĒ hard for you? YES NO Is it to be needed almost an addiction for you? YES NO When you are needed …

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Control vs. No Control

Everyday we have situations, circumstances, people, and events calling for our attention. Some are exciting, some are scary, some are confusing, some are frustrating. The list of possible reactions to the innumerable circumstances are endless. So how do we decide what to focus our efforts on, and what to let go? First, it is important …

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The Healthy Self: Esteem, Love, and Worth

Is there such a thing as loving oneself too much? What about too little? How do we achieve the balance of self; in the sense that it is just right? Letís delve into what each of these actually mean and then expand upon their relationship towards each other: Self-esteem: what we THINK and FEEL and …

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What is POSITIVE self consciousness?

  Often we think of self consciousness as having negative connotations that may coincide with being too embarrassed to speak up, insecure in our interactions with others, or even missed opportunities in life. Ultimately, as we explore our own individual relationships with self consciousness and how it can provide benefits in relationships within ourselves and …

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The Leap to Conclusions

I think it is fair to say that most of us want answers. However, I donít know if most people want to swim through the sea of information that leads to greater understanding. Far too often we make decisions or try to solve a problem without taking the time to gather all the information; without …

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