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Mistaken Identity

Are you dealing with a mistaken identity? Are you aware that your mistaken identity is negatively impacting your marriage or couple relationship? This is happening when you mistake poor behavior or a negative attitude as being part of your identity or personality? Every day I directly tell couples to stop being critical, defensive, making assumptions, …

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What do you remember?

Do times feel tough in your relationship? Do you wish things felt as easy and exciting as they seemed when you and your spouse first got together? I remember the great times I had with my wife when we were dating. We went fishing up Logan canyon. We took walks around the campus at Utah …

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Try Differently

Recently, my car broke down in the parking lot of the building where I do couples counseling in Sandy, UT. The next day was a Saturday and I brought my son with me as I tried to determine what was wrong with the car. After unsuccessfully trying to jump start the car, I determined that …

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You hardly talk to me anymore

You hardly talk to me anymore When I come through the door at the end of the day I remember when you couldn’t wait to love me Used to hate to leave me… It used to be so natural To talk about forever But used-to-be’s don’t count anymore They just lay on the floor ’til …

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Take the Stronger Couples 365 Challenge

The year is coming to an end and this is the time when many people naturally reflect on their lives and decide what changes need to be made. Often the goals for the new year are focused on individual pursuits. This coming year, instead of focusing on improving yourself, make this coming year a time …

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Stop the Relationship Wrestling

Take down–two points. Reversal–two points. Pin–for the win. These are all things I witnessed at my son’s most recent wrestling tournament. As I sat and watched my son wrestle, I couldn’t help but think that I see a similar pattern of verbal and emotional behavior from many of the couples I have seen in my …

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Create a Magical Couple Relationship

When I was a little boy, I would lay awake anticipating what presents Santa Claus was going to bring me. In spite of fact that Santa Claus never gave me what I had asked for, year after year I would experience the wonder and excitement of anticipating what Santa would bring me. I believe my …

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Family First

We live in a world driven by aspirations, public opinion, and striving to be the best. Why do we do this? The short and blunt answer might be: image management. At what cost? The short and blunt answer might be: our families. I have been one who has always strived to excel. I worked hard …

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In Which Category Do Your Relationship Problems Fall?

In my office I frequently hear couples say, “When a couple can’t agree on things like sex and money and can’t communicate, they end up getting divorced…Right?” These may be perceived reasons that cause divorce, but I suggest that there are three categories where the majority of relationship problems land. May I suggest that it …

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Marriage counselor with a flip phone

I trying an experiment that I began a few months ago until the end of the year. I gave up my smartphone. In recent years more and more research has found correlations between smartphone use and marriage problems, depression, anxiety, insomnia, and emotional distance. I see it in my clients. I have counseled couples for …

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