Can I really forgive and forget?

August 21, 2011

How do I forgive when it still hurts so much? How do I get back to how it was before he/she lost my trust? I want to move on, but how do I know if I am ready? How do I control all my thoughts that make me question if I can trust her/him again? [...]

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Are we too selfish in our marriage?

July 16, 2011

Here is a short quiz you can take to see if selfishness is causing problems in your marriage (FOR PRINTABLE VERSION CLICK HERE): 1. Do I confuse my desires with my needs? Y/N 2. Do I care more about “what’s in it for me” than “what’s in it for my spouse”? Y/N 3. Do I [...]

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Marriage and video games

June 22, 2011

I was interviewed again on KSL Newsradio about how video games can cause problems in marriages. Visit this link to read an excerpt: http://www.ksl.com/?sid=16076730&nid=1015

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How to help loved ones that are struggling

June 14, 2011

When a loved one comes to you for a listening ear when they are struggling, the natural tendency is to try to “solve” their problems. We should avoid falling into this trap. To help with this I have compiled a simple list of to-do’s and not-to-do’s that you can follow when someone shares a struggle [...]

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Did I marry the right person?

June 3, 2011

A week doesn’t go by when I am not asked questions similar to: “Did I marry the right person?”, “Is it possible we are just too incompatible?”, or “What if they are not what I want/need anymore?” Spouses often start to question things when the relationship gets rough. My experience is that there is nothing [...]

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Tips for Parents: 4 – Age Appropriate Rules

June 1, 2011

Have clear, age-appropriate rules and ramifications for breaking these rules for each child. Each child may need separate rules depending on their age. Ensure each child knows what the rules are. It can be helpful to write them down and post them in a visible place. This can reduce complaints regarding the fairness of the [...]

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Tips for Parents: 3 – Consistency Between Parents

May 26, 2011

Consistency between parents: Building on the previous tip, there should not be one parent that lays the hammer down and the other that is a pushover. If your kids gravitate to one parent for certain things, this should be a sign of inconsistencies in parenting. Stereotypically, we see dad as the one to manage the tough [...]

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Tips for Parents: 2 – Couples on same page

May 20, 2011

Couples on the same page: Couples (or separated/divorced parents) always need to be on the same page when in comes to discipline. Often parents disagree with something the other parent did to discipline a child. If the other parent issues a punishment that you disagree with, support them in front of the kids. Then, talk [...]

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Tips for Parents: 1 – Be Parents, Not Peers

May 16, 2011

In the coming months I will periodically post some tips for parents. One of the most common issues parents ask me for help with in counseling is how to appropriately discipline their children. Kids can be a wonderful joy in the lives of parents, but they can also become stressors when their behavior starts to get [...]

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Fantasy Marriage: KSL Newsradio

April 28, 2011

I was interviewed again today on KSL Newsradio. The interview happened due to the hype surrounding the Royal wedding. I think it can be a good thing for the world to make such a fuss over a wedding. By the same token, it is important to keep things in check and realize that fairy tale [...]

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