Believe In Your Marriage

One of the most important keys to overcoming marital problems is to believe in your marriage. Believe that it can be saved. Believe in yourself and your spouse in your abilities to make the personal changes necessary for things to be made right. Certainly there are circumstances where a relationship may not be salvageable. However, those tend to be more the exception than the rule. In any case, without believing that things can improve, they likely won't. The reason? Because your motivation … [Read more...]

The Two Most Important Skills Couples Should Learn

There are two "V" skills that every couple should learn together: How to be vulnerable with each other. How to validate each other. Vulnerable: If there is one person that you should be able to feel vulnerable with, it is your spouse/partner. They re the person who should be your first call when something difficult, horrible, exciting, or boring happens. You should want to share the experience with them. That is why vulnerability is so important. It facilitates sharing in the … [Read more...]

Do you love your phone more than your spouse?

No one will dispute how busy life seems to be these days. Work demands are fierce as people strive to find and keep much-needed employment. Children seem to have ever higher expectations in extra-curricular participation that requires parents to spend countless hours driving kids to one of their ten sports teams, school clubs, and music lessons. Parents become the shuttle service, coaches, and the cheerleading squad working in support of their kids. Volunteering in community or religious … [Read more...]

Look for the Happiness in Your Life and Your Marriage

My sons are incredible boys. Both have come from difficult pasts and endured more than most of us have to in a lifetime. My younger son has faced some significant physical trials throughout his 3 years of life. He was born with a cleft lip and palate and spent the first 21 months of his life in an orphanage. Since we adopted him two years ago, he has had to acclimate to a completely different culture, climate, and life. He has endured 9 painful surgeries that have been very scary for him. He has … [Read more...]

Will your spouse be thankful for you?

With Thanksgiving approaching you may reflect on the things you are thankful for. What are you thankful for? Do you think your spouse is thankful for you? As I think of that question my mind and heart turn to my wife. She has shown her commitment to me and our children for many years. We love her because she is someone we can rely on. She is selfless, compassionate, generous, and loving. I know that she will be there for me and our boys because that is who she has always been. Today as … [Read more...]